Lately, I have been examining my life and my walk with the Lord and I concluded that in order for me to continue maturing in my Christian walk, I must take responsibility for my actions and quit blaming others for the mistakes that I have created.
One way to do this is to be honest with myself and God. In 1 John 1:9 it states "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Confession is the first step to maturity because you make yourself accountable to God and then He can step in and help you out of the mess that you created.
The prophet Daniel states, "To the Lord our God belong mercies and forgiveness, though we have rebelled against Him" (Daniel 9:9). If we confess our past mistakes, and our rebellious ways, God will be merciful and then He will begin to heal our past hurts.